Knocking out the Honey-Do List Yourself

By Aurora M.

I think we can all agree that gone are the days that you separated the different household tasks  to whatever member of the family was “supposed” to do it, according to their gender. The women in the household don’t need to be the ones to make three meals a day, stay at home, or keep the house tidy while their husband works. And the men of the household don’t need to be the main breadwinner, or be the one who fixes the leaky faucet, changes the oil in the car, or squish the spiders that show up on the walls.

Don’t leave the to do list for your honey

Staying at home taking care of the kids and the house is a job, too. It’s every bit as difficult as going out into a traditional workplace from 9-5 every weekday. But there’s no reason to split the household duties in a traditional sense. Leave the dishes until the end of the day when your husband is home, and let him do them. Insist that someone else takes out the trash for once. And you’re not exempt from this. The handywork doesn’t have to wait until your husband is home. Your sink is clogged? You can fix it yourself.

Unclogging the drain

Maybe just a little bit too much food went down the garbage disposal in the kitchen sink. Or your stress hair loss is making it impossible for the tub to drain. Or maybe the toddler got away for a few minutes and filled the toilet with toilet paper. Things happen. A clogged drain is definitely not something to leave until the end of the day for your partner to fix. There are a few different methods that you can use to try and clear the drain of the unwanted materials. You can use a plunger, baking soda and vinegar, or you can use a drain snake.

Lawn care

Working in the yard may be tedious work, but it can feel relieving to be outside for a few hours and get your hands dirty. Unlike when you spend hours to get the kitchen clean just to see your child run through and smear jam on the counters moments later, working in the yard will leave you with results that aren’t so easily destroyed. Let your husband put the kids to bed after dinner, while you spend a few minutes watching the sunset while you rake leaves or prepare mulch for the garden. Or have him help you. If you have some nice shade cover (or you’re holding out hope that you can maintain your summer tan throughout these cold months and want to work in the sunshine), bring your kids out to play while the weather’s still mild enough, and get the work done during the day.

Be your own mechanic

How many times have you asked your husband to change the oil in your car or swap out the windshield wiper blades, before you finally have to take it to your local garage and pay someone else to do the work you know could easily be done at home? These mechanical fixes are a lot less complex than they seem, and will not only save you money, but will also leave you feeling accomplished. And then you can spend the money you would’ve spent on taking your car to get the oil changed by someone else, to do a little online shopping the next time your kids are taking a nap.
All you’ll need to change the oil in your car is: replacement oil, replacement oil filter, tray to catch the old oil, and a socket wrench. It’s a relatively simple job, and you can watch a few youtube videos to figure out how to do it right. It’s just a matter of replacing the filter(which will then leak the old oil), and then refilling with the new oil. Such a simple job, but one that will nonetheless surprise your partner when he gets home and sees that you took matters into your own hands and took care of the honey-do list yourself.

The power of a screwdriver

Often, there are small things around the house that can be quite simply fixed with a screwdriver; a loose cupboard door, the toilet-paper holder knocked off the wall, a wobbly leg on a table. Here’s a pro tip: if you’re not sure how to take care of something yourself, you can ask someone at the hardware store. They’re amazingly helpful and sometimes, they even have classes to help you learn some extra handyman skills.


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